Non Violent Communication or Compassionate Communication
The “No Manipulation” Communication Workshop To Get What You Need
The problem with communication is that we don’t achieve our objective. So we end up having to use the language of force. It rapidly goes downhill and we get stuck in a battle with the other person.
No one wants to communicate badly.
So many times we bang our head repeatedly against the wall trying to get the other person to understand what we mean. Other times we utter words that we wish we could take back. Communication or the lack of it can cause relationships to grow or fall apart. Instead, what if we were able to communicate in a way that facilitated a deepening of the relationship.
No one wants to communicate or be communicated using a language of force.
What if we are able to communicate in a manner that is compassionate instead of force, connection instead of disconnection and authenticity instead of compromise. While we understand the need for compassion, connection and authenticity, they are not always easy to achieve. Where do we start? How do we proceed?
Announcing “The Non-Violent Communication” Workshop at Magichive.
The language we use comes from the way we think. When we are aware of our thoughts, feelings and needs the language that we use is clear, enriching for self and others. NVC is a process which helps us get that clarity and brings compassion in our thoughts, language and action.
Self Empathy and Empathy for others enrich our lives and are a contribution to others. You will explore with us this process. This workshop of compassionate communication will not just widen your way of looking at things, it will also help in connecting and contributing to the world around you with compassion.
And here’s why this workshop is so important.
Gone are the days when power or role or authority dictated who would listen to us. Communication wasn’t necessarily about connection but just about the flow of information.
The world around us has changed rapidly.
We are struggling to communicate using the old thinking models with our children, spouses, colleagues and even teams. In a world that is being rapidly filled with people who are constantly on their phones with other people instead of being completely present with physically whoever they are with, it is imperative that we communicate in a way that holds attention and presence.
There are 3 hallmarks of a robust communication system that makes it easy for you to communicate using attention and presence. So what are they?
Easy to Understand: Simple enough to explain to a 10-year-old
Easy to Audit: This is the litmus test of the system. As soon as you use it, you’ll know if it is working or not.
Easy to Implement: You could be woken up in the middle of the night, and you’ll be able to use this framework instantly.
What will be covered in the sessions?
Stage 1: Working with the Self
How to increase the options of response in a given situation (even an impossible situation).
What are the ways to generate empathy for self.
How to communicate honestly and openly in line with your intentions and objectives.
How can you tap into your own resources to handle any kind of situation in your life.
Why it is important to learn to be in one’s own presence.
How can you identify, access and work with your own needs.
How can you get more clarity with your thinking process.
What are the ways to use this tool to make a decision.
How to enable creating valuable insights in everyday situations instead of going to a lockdown meditation retreat where you hope to be magically transformed.
Why is self-expression important in working with oneself.
How this process helps you to increase your self-awareness and clarify your own values.
Why is this technique a practical application of mindfulness in everyday life.
How working with self develops critical thinking abilities.
How can you bring about personal transformation, develop patience and cultivate courage.
Stage 2: Understanding the Other
How to develop active listening skills.
Why increasing your power of observation is crucial for better communication.
Why developing compassion for others can help you to understand them better.
How to accept others for who they really are instead of wishing that they would change.
Connect with others easily.
How can you empathise with the other person.
How can you get in touch with what’s alive in the other person.
Why understanding the other person’s needs can help your communication by leaps and bounds.
How can you see behind the harsh words the other person says for what the person truly intends.
How can you respond to the other person’s needs and feelings.
Stage 3: Communicate with Connection
How can you move from resolving to transforming conflicts into an opportunity for a deeper connection.
How can you get your needs met with “No Manipulation” Communication.
How to use the process as a Mediation Tool.
How to handle negotiations at a deeper level that increases connection and improves the chances of both parties getting what they want.
What can you do to create warmth in your interactions with others.
How can you communicate in sticky situations.
How can you respond compassionately with a difficult person.
What’s the uniqueness of a Magichive Workshop?
The key to learning isn’t truckloads of information, but the depth. In this workshop, we will go in great detail on every aspect of the NVC technique in which the nitty gritty, potential pitfalls and multiple examples will be explained, and then you will get an opportunity to put this in action and get loads of practice!
The content of the workshop can be delivered in less than 2 hours
But the workshop is spread over 6 sessions so that the participant gets lots of mental space to absorb and practice the material over and over again. This helps the participant to learn without information overload and the overwhelm that accompanies traditional workshops. The workshop is structured with the participant’s needs in the centre which enables them to get maximum learning and value out of the workshop.
Our Magichive system ensures fluency, familiarity and skill, not just tons of information.
That’s what makes a Magichive workshop unique.
Feedback from Participants
I have been waiting for the NVC training from 3 months, one of the most important traits I had to acquire to enjoy a better and coordinated life with people around me.
This was no doubt a huge lacuna in my life. I sometimes wonder how I didn’t identify this skill gap and the options available to fulfill this need. As I finish this session today, I reflect how my life would have been different had I acquired these skills years ago.
While there are a lot of learnings learned as part of NVC, I would like to share some learnings which I initiated implement right away.
1. The “ Pause “ – Pause for me was nothing other than dictionary meaning – short break,
which has now become the mother word among all other words. The word “ Pause” is now
giving me the freedom to respond/act based on Observation and Stimulus
The STATEMENT AUTO PILOT MODE and the action to be dumped and aim to become open
to new ideas, experiences and activities.
2. What do I always Own? – “ The choice I make “: The consequences – Desirable or Non
Desirable I own complete ownership and thus slowly and steadily strive to remove the word
“blame” from the dictionary.
3. Black and White, Good and Bad – are just again words which I aim to remove from my
dictionary. These are only perspectives, which do not have a definite meaning. This gives
me the freedom to work with people without a fixed mindset and achieve desired outcomes
which may not happen always but at least give me the joy of making that 50% attempt
towards the solution instead of beating myself for not being able to get desired results
4. Understanding needs, thoughts, and feelings – Had very limited needs and feelings in my
dictionary, While evaluation the doer sees only 1 or 2 of his needs to be met and 0 or 1
the need of the receiver. The feelings and needs cards make me reflect, be open to other
feelings and apply confident solutions.
5. Self-Empathy – Understanding needs as well as strategies of people around us, indicates
the needs to work with a higher level of confidence as well as connection. This act loudly
brings out the need to give ourselves lot of self-empathy so that I understand myself, my
needs, my aspirations and thus create a kind, conducive environment to inspire people and
work towards common goals.
Finally, Sharing my Love to Subha for working through the program with her heart, mind, and soul.And the participants sharing enriching experiences, the support as well as the biggggggggggggggg ��hug you gave me after I shared the uneasy movement.
And the final learning which I implemented today and glad about is the choice that I made to share about the comfortable and uncomfortable situations.
– Sindhu, Bangalore
“A lot of previous beliefs that I carried about myself and others began to melt away. I have become more open to the possibility of operating from the feeling of love, compassion and acceptance towards myself and others.”
The self-awareness journey that I began with Chetana brought significant changes in the way I saw life, with new insights about myself, surroundings and others. But there were certain parts that were missing when it came to being able to connect with people around me.
NVC was a process that fixed those missing jigsaw puzzles of life. It was very helpful to understand that the power to observe, pause, reflect, respond and choose lies within each one of us and that whatever the situation may be we are capable of empathizing with our needs and also the needs of others.
A lot of previous beliefs that I carried about myself and others began to melt away. I have become more open to the possibility of operating from the feeling of love, compassion and acceptance towards myself and others.
This NVC process is more like mindfulness for me where I don’t get attached to a thought, feeling, need or experience instead I am able to observe ‘what is’. As I experience this process I would like to say that the space from where I am operating right now has brought about a major shift in the energy field around me and this makes it so much more easier to breathe.
Subha, I am really happy to have had this opportunity to experience such a life changing process under your able guidance, support, love and care. You have simplified so many complex things for me due to which I am finally able to acknowledge my feelings, needs and am willing to take concrete steps towards meeting my goals.
Also, I would like to thank all my co-participants for making this journey really special and meaningful by sharing their insights and experiences.
– Ritu, Bangalore
“I had a lot of aha moments and insights that have made me understand a lot of things that I’ve been struggling with. “
Here are my 3 key insights…..
1. Safe Place: The safe place mentally and physically that Subha and everyone created helped me to feel safe and stay with a lot of things that came up during the sessions. This safe place is what I will strive to create in my connection with others, by suspending judgement, gathering facts, and listening with empathy.
2. Not this or that, but this and that: What was really powerful for me and quite a big relief was that I don’t have to be a giraffe, nor I need to strive to be 100% giraffe at every interaction. The aspiration is to increase my awareness to know which space I am operating from, and to consciously chose that space from which I am interacting.
3. Price to pay: I had an intellectual understanding that one should be kind to oneself, otherwise any kind of change remains unsustainable. But today I understood that emotionally in my heart that there is a big price to pay for withholding kindness to oneself. The price is paid in a lot of myriad ways and results in a disconnection with my body, mind, spirit and myself. It is very taxing to be judgemental, critical, brutal, cruel to be oneself.
I’ve never met Subha, but my first interaction with her convinced me that this workshop would be a gamechanger for me. She’s someone who by virtue of openness, humour, acceptance and balance created a safe space in which all of us were able to interact. She’s an amazing facilitator who handles tricky situations with the response and not reaction. It was a treat to watch her conduct her workshop as she role plays situations. There’s so much I learnt from just watching her.
Finally, the group – it was such a privilege and an honour to have been given unconditional acceptance and love from the group and to also listen to personal stories – which was an inspiration to me. Thanks to all of you 🙂 ❤
– Shirisha, Bangalore
What does the Training Method entail?
This workshop is dedicated to doing one thing – helping you to practice the principles of non-violent communication to deepen your connection and relationships with other people. It’s not just the connection with other people, but also with yourself. The workshop will be an enriching experience that will be the beginning of a powerful personal transformation.
Here are some of the key features of the workshop.
Practice the concepts:
One of the biggest issues in workshops and trainings is the flow of information. Although the trainer doesn’t intend to do that, but excess information overwhelms the audience. It’s like overloading your buffet as you try to sample everything, and feeling sick and stuffed later. Not a good feeling 🙁 In a Magichive workshop, you’ll be given one piece of information but with depth. Learning doesn’t have to be painful, it can be fun and unhurried too! That’s what you’ll experience as you practice the concepts and wire them into your brain for good.
“Right Size” Groups
One of the coolest parts of a Magichive workshop is “Right Size” Groups. For our workshops we accept no more than 12 participants, and even within that group you will work in small groups of size 3-4 people. You are always interacting with a few people, and not trying to work everyone in the room.
Specially Handpicked Workshop Participants
The people in your group make a big deal of difference to what and how you learn. That’s why you’ll find that we handpick our workshop participants. Our workshops aren’t insanely marketed, in fact they are barely marketed at all! You’ll find the people in the workshop to be open, kind and hard working. They’ll engage in lots of interaction, ask questions and be willing to listen.
What This Workshop is NOT about?
This workshop is not a silver bullet that will magically solve your problems overnight. You will have to apply these tools consistently on yourself and in your interaction with others to achieve success.
This workshop is not about gaining mastery over a particular language, instead it is about thinking differently about communication using the tools we teach you irrespective of which language you communicate in.
This workshop is not about changing who you are fundamentally, instead it is about seeing and accepting yourself for who you are and communicating from a place of authenticity.
Free Access to all repeat NVC workshops at Magichive
NVC is a concept that deepens as you practice. It is like a magic well that gives you more as you draw from it. Because we would like you to practice and use NVC in your every day life, we offer you free access to life long attendance at NVC workshops held by Magichive . You will have the opportunity to practice and deepen your communication at a regular basis.
Price: Rs. 4000/-
Life Time Bonuses:
Free Access to all repeat NVC workshops at Magichive (worth Rs.8000 every year)
The Complete NVC Toolkit (OFNR Tool + Feelings Cards + Needs Cards + Workbook) : Rs. 1000/-
Frequently Asked Questions
Where is the workshop being held?
The workshop is being held at Magichive, #305, 7th Main, 5th Cross, RBI Layout, JP Nagar 7th Phase, Bangalore.
What are the dates and timings of the workshop?
Dates: Starting 10th Sept 2019 (6 sessions Tuesdays and Thursdays) Three weeks
Time: 10 AM to 12 Noon
Total Number of Participants: 12
Number of Seats Left: 12
Who is conducting the workshop?
Subha Parthasarathy is the the facilitator of this workshop. Subha has been working with children (4 to 16 years age group) since 2006 through her activity classes that are focused on building self awareness among children.
She has taken hundreds of sessions for different groups of parents that are focused on “Understanding Oneself to understand children” through our flagship program called “Chetana”. She has also taken training workshops for teachers/parenting sessions for parents in schools in Bangalore/Vizag. She has taken numerous “one on one” counselling sessions with parents. She believes that effective relationship can be built with compassionate communication. She is inspired by Non Violent Communication advocated by Marshall Rosenberg and follows that in her interaction with children and parents.
Train the Trainer from GenieKids Learning Center
International Graduate Diploma in Counselling from Banjara Academy, Bangalore
NLP Basic & Advanced courses conducted by Dr Dick McHugh
Certified NLP Practitioner
Certified Basic Ericksonian Hypnotist
Gestalt Therapy under Dr Dick McHugh
Habits of the Mind certification offered by the learning center run by Art Costa / Bena Kallick
Transactional Analysis – TA101 certification
Cognitive Behavior Therapy from NIMHANS
Empowering Adolescents using Life Skills Education- NIMHANS
Mindfulness based Cognitive Behavioural Interventions – NIMHANS
Reiki Master & Teacher
What is the price?
How do I sign up right away?
Drop a message to Subha @ +91 93421 33490 to reserve your seat. Make the payment online and drop us a mail @email@example.com
Account details : A/c Name : Magichive Bank : State Bank of India,
A/c Number : 64100042702
IFSC Code : SBIN0040622, Putenahalli Branch
Are there any conditions?
No conditions or strings attached!
What happens if I can’t attend for some reason?
There will be no refunds, but you are welcome to attend the workshop at a later date.
Do you have any further questions? Anything we have left out?
Write to us at firstname.lastname@example.org or drop us a message on +91 93421 33490
For Futher Reading:
Here are some recommended resources on Non-Violent Communication.
Marshall Rosenberg’s book “The Non Violent Communication”
Marshall’s introduction to NVC Seminar: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UEqmZ2E1o64